Posting the reply to your question here as well.
I am first planning to buy the motherboard then the cpu. I was told that everything revolves around the motherboard, as all the features first has to be choosen from the the board. I am open for any motherboard as of yet.
The chassis i have and i am planning to connect are..
24bay 4U Norco Chassis - Media Server : SnapRaid
36bay 4U SuperMicro Chassis SAS2 - Media Storage
16bay 3U SuperMicro Chassis SAS2 - FreeNAS
16bay 3U SuperMicro Chassis SAS2 - Media Server
24bay 4U SuperMicro Chassis SAS2 = Media Server
Planning to install ESXI, create couple of virtual machines, install debain for Webhosting and Mailserver on one of the VM's. Create a VM and Install Ubuntu and install apache, and deluge and use it as a seedbox for seeding 5000+ torrent files.
Create a VM and install Debian and SnapRAID for Media server.