1. If you buy a 7232P now and find speeds to be lower than expected you will question yourself if thats because of 4-channel memory or anything else. So if you wanna by now, I think 7302P is the way to go. The 7262 is not cheap enough and will be harder to sell I guess.
2. If you buy Rome, I personally would buy Milan used in 1-2 years from now. If wait with your build for Milan, I have the feeling you will have to wait a few month more than you expect, except you have better sources via work.
3. TR Pro is interesting, but everything depends on the clock-speeds and prices of Milan. A Milan successor to the 7Fx2 series will rival TR Pro I guess, but could be much more expensive. I personally would prefer it nonetheless, because I do not like the TR Pro boards. To big, to much stuff I do not need, a little to "unprofessional". For next gen TR Pro you will have to wait a very long time, so this is out. Next gen TR (non-pro) would be out for me personally for a real server build. I think this will be more interesting for a workstation build.
So me personally will wait for broad Milan availability and then decide if Rome prices (either used or new) have fallen enough, or Milan is so much better, that I will pay the premium.