Actually that would be for a Oculink based Backplane.
I'm in a similar Boat.
We need a SFF-8643 to SFF-8643 NVMe Connector, both for your AOC-SLG3-4E4R
and for my AOC-SLG3-4E2P.
So probably something like this:
Copper Cable Assembly Perfect for NVMe MiniSAS HD Applications Also Available in 60cm and 70cm Supermicro Certified JUST REDUCEDOriginal Price: $28.83*Limited Stock Available*
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Copper Cable Assembly Perfect for NVMe MiniSAS HD Applications Also Available in 45cm and 70cm Supermicro Certified
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Copper Cable Assembly Perfect for NVMe MiniSAS HD Applications Also Available in 45cm and 60cm Supermicro Certified
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EDIT 1: my AOC-SLG3-4E2P has Oculink (SFF-8611) Ports, NOT SFF-8643 ! Corrected Text.