EUREKA!!! oh my Goodness! EURE-freakin-KA!!!!
Let me start off by saying that i appreciate the efforts of all who tried their best to help me. You guys are totally awesome, and I could not have done this, or arrived to this conclusion without your suggestions and help. Thank You, Thank You so MUCH.
I finally figured it out. I finally got this pony to start riding. Oh my goodness it was a struggle. And the answer was so damn simple, I am so mad at myself right now. So very mad.
The answer was JUMBO FRAMES.....Stay away. Stay far away.
So I was working on installing windows on a small business pc that had a x4 pcie 2.0 slot. I installed a low profile mellanox card and booted. I installed windows 8.1 and proceeded to test. After installation, my hopes were lifted as i was able to log into main pc through the network, but still not through to the server. This gave me hope, but i was still not able to see the server.
At this point I knew it was a setting on my server. It had to be, because now i could see windows to windows across the 10gb sfp+ ports. So i logged into the server wirelessly and started poking at my settings. Finally after spending all day and not sleeping at all after working all last night, I stumbled upon it.... JUMBO FRAMES.
I had previously set an MTU of 9000 for my mellanox and chelsio 10gb cards. This was my fatal mistake. Nothing, and I mean nothing passed through or left the server with the mtu set at 9000. I said what do I have to lose. I disabled the mtu and left it at default.
Oh my goodness. I was able to log in no problem and see the server and all is now freakin' good! I am so damn happy to get this fixed man!
I am abit curious though... Does this switch NOT support jumbo frames???? I mean, don't get me wrong. I am DONE with that old sinister technology. This had me stumped for days.
I went ahead and disabled jumbo on all my cards and devices on the network and everything is working peachy and bright. I have learned my lesson. Jumbo is a threat. Jumbo kills. Jumbo is now my arch enemy.
I was reading through a few articles and the impression I got anyway was that Jumbo is almost not needed in today's networking environment as the offloading capabilities of today's NIC's do most of the work anyways? Can someone confirm?
Anyways, I thank all for helping, and hope my posts can prove useful for some other poor schmuck who comes along. I am now a for life member of servethehome.
I hope I contributed to the knowledge.
P.S. dwright, djflow, and anyone else i might have forgotten....you totally ROCK.