there is another BIOS only threshold for corrected ecc errors. i guess it comes from there.
you have to clear cmos /NVRAM to get the slot back.
the ecc error must not be the RDIMM intself, there can be a bad connection here: CPU->socketpins->motherboard->DIMMslot->RDIMM
Wrong slot name can happen often, will be solved in future BIOS/BMC Firmware.
Yes, it was H1, not H0.
That one line diagram about a bad connection made me wonder, so I completely reseated the CPU, reset the cooler with new thermal paste, cleared the bios, then restarted it - and it worked. It wasn't the memory at all. Since I did not want an unstable situation, I decided to remove the cooler, reseat the cooler, and it reverted back to recognizing 3 sticks only. So there is a marginal contact issue of the CPU to socket.
The question is: What can be cleaned to remove this issue, and how is that done? All contacts eventually become dirty, but I've never cleaned CPU contacts nor socket contacts.