I agree and completely understand their position. They have tested the board with various DIMM's and certified them as stable and reliable and that's what they will obviously support and stand behind for use in their products. I was hoping though, as you were, that they might have said something along the lines of "yes, this other RAM is also 1.35v and it worked, so you *should* get away with it, although it would be an unsupported configuration".
Obviously from a support perspective, where contracts are involved, rather than a home lab environment, and even then, you should really be using something from their HCL without question. I would check all the RAM listed on their HCL for that board though and see if any of it runs at 1.35V, if it does, it's possible your RAM will also work. If on the other hand it is all showing as 1.5V only, then I think you would be better to replace the RAM now rather than risking it, because if the RAM fries, so does the Mainboard.
Good luck with it